#raisingcapablechildren: G is for Gratitude – How to Develop an Attitude of Gratitude?

On day 5 I wrote about developing a sense of empathy in children. A key foundation of that is gratitude – the ability to be thankful for what one has, rather than focusing on what one doesn’t have. Day 7 of the #blogchatterA2Z challenge is dedicated to G for Gratitude and I will share some thoughts on developing an “Attitude of Gratitude” in our children.

Children or for that matter even adults who don’t know gratitude don’t know how to be satisfied, regardless of how much they have or whatever they have achieved and end up remaining unhappy and discontented most of their lives. Gratitude helps decreasing a number of negative emotions such as regret, sadness, envy, anger and resentment. There are a number of studies that link gratitude to physical and emotional health.

Today kids have many more privileges, materialistic conveniences as well as opportunities compared to what we ever had. The sheer variety to choose from is mind boggling. It has likely also led to a sense of entitlement in children. It is easy to get used to keep getting stuff without knowing or caring where it comes from. Hence it becomes even more important to instill a sense of gratitude in our children. To remind them that all these comforts do not come from nowhere. There are others working hard so that they are able to enjoy their comforts. It is also important to make them realise that not everyone has the good fortune of having these privileges.

Being aware of who or what is responsible for the positive aspects of their lives can help children feel less entitled, more grateful and less likely to make unnecessary demands. It also helps them appreciate what they have rather than focus on what they don’t have.

Below are some tips on how to develop gratitude in our children:

  1. Start young: this usually starts with teaching our children simple manners like saying thank you and sorry (I love it when my little one says thank you mumma!) but slowly this habit can develop into an attitude of gratitude.
  2. Encourage them to feel and thank: Saying thank you becomes so ingrained that many times we say a perfunctory thank you without really feeling grateful. Help them notice when someone is being kind to them. Point out the number of people who are making their lives easier or filling it with love – their grandparents, nannies, teachers, and many more. At my little one’s pre-school they get them to say thank you to even their tiffins and water bottles! At my older one’s school, a day was dedicated when children took over from their bhaiyyas and didis and give them gifts. Even at my college hostel, once a year, we used to cook for our mess workers and treat them to dinner. All of these are ways to thank people who are an intrinsic part of our lives. Motivate them to thank people with an act rather than only words. Make a Thank You card or write a letter. Maybe bake a cake or make a gift to show they are thankful.
  3. Avoid excess: unknowingly many of us instill the sense of entitlement in our kids by giving them too much or doing too much for them or going out of the way for giving them whatever they want. It is very easy to take things and people for granted when one doesn’t have to exert much effort in getting them. I am myself guilty for buying too many toys for my first born and am rectifying that now. Similarly, am trying to make going out or treats special/infrequent occasions. As they grow older, one can also introduce the concept of ‘earning stuff’. For example, my son has been asking for a Disney plus subscription. I have agreed to get him a week’s trial if his weekly report improves. Plus of course remember that one doesn’t need to give them anything and everything they want.
  4. Expose them to reality: it is difficult to realise your position of privilege unless you see those who do not have it. Hence it is important to expose children to reality. This will also help develop empathy. Use this to teach them to give back to society – to help those who are not as privileged as them. Also, this need not be limited to only economically underprivileged – if your child is popular at school, you can talk about someone who may not have too many friends and suggest your child to reach out. Or perhaps your child is brilliant in French and she can help another friend who may be struggling with it.
  5. Enjoy simple pleasures of life: opt for the simple experience and step out of the busy, mind numbing lives that we are leading nowadays. The COVID 19 lockdown is also giving us a lot of opportunities to see that. It was sheer joy to see my younger one go completely berserk when he saw his first rainbow last week!
  6. Some gratitude activities to do with kids:
    • Saying grace everyday or just talking about what we are thankful for – have each family member share a new aspect every evening at the dinner table.
    • Do a gratitude tree – this one can be good if you have a garden with a tree. Cut big leaves out of chart paper, write your blessings and go hang them on the tree. Kids would really enjoy this one.
    • Gratitude jar – the whole family can participate in this. Keep a jar of gratitude and whenever people feel grateful about something (or it could be a daily activity as well) they write about it on a slip of paper and drop it in the jar. It could be a weekly or monthly activity to open and read out all the nice things! Or you could keep it for a rainy day when one needs to see the positives in life.
    • Alphabet thanks – good to play with younger children who are still learning their ABCs – pull out a letter – ask them to think of something they are thankful for that starts with that letter.
    • Family gratitude book – all members of the family could pitch in to make this journal and fill it with lovely memories, pictures and mementos. It would be a lovely experience to go back to it from time to time
    • Daily gratitude journal – this could be especially useful if the child is going through a rough patch. Writing positives every day would be uplifting.

Please check out this great blog by Musa Creative on tips to practice gratitude everyday!

Finally, gratitude is something that keeps us rooted and remain strong through thick and thin.

This is all from my bag of tricks – let me know what other ideas you have!


Liked this blog? Do consider buying my book “Raising Capable Children” that shares hundreds of tips and ideas on bringing up confident children. See below for buying options.

India – Amazon: https://amzn.to/3j3QSrx ; Flipkart: https://www.flipkart.com/raising-capable-children/p/itm2134c13e7108f?pid=9789390267033: FirstCry: https://www.firstcry.com/StoryMirror/StoryMirror-Raising-Capable-Children-English/8472753/product-detail?q=as_raising%20capable%20children

For US and UK- https://www.amazon.com/dp/939026703X ; https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/939026703X

Thanks so much for reading! Please comment, share and spread the word! 

Regards, Sakshi aka tripleamommy
You can find me at:
Blog: https://tripleamommy.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/tripleamommmyInsta: https://www.instagram.com/tripleamommmy/ FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Tripleamommy-2101887313189940
Pinterest: https://in.pinterest.com/tripleamommmy/

Read my other blogs on the series here:

Theme reveal

A is for Aiming High

B is for Being Brave

C is for Courage of Conviction

D is for Discipline

E is for Empathy

F is for Financial Awareness


  1. Being grateful for what they are getting is a tough concept for kids to understand but for parents it is very important to convince them and explain it to them in their language. Sooner they understand it, start appreciating things they are getting, they will be a satisfied soul at later stages.

  2. Yes Gratitude and positive affirmations must be made part of kids daily routine.you have mentioned some amazing points which can help parents to encourage kids for having gratitude.

  3. Yes being grateful is such a wonderful gesture that work wonders for everyone. I agree we should start since our kids young. Recently we had made a gratitude jar and my girls had great time while doing this.

  4. I agree with you, gratitude is such an important value one should practice in their life and it’s even more important to teach our kids about gratitude. Thank you for sharing these wonderful tips to develop gratitude in children.

  5. Gratitude for all the blessings in life is something we all should aspire to teach our children and grandchildren. You have suggested some simple ways of doing that.

  6. Gratitude is the most beautiful feeling that must be definitely imbibed in every child. This is only possible when we as parents set examples to teach them this great expression.

  7. I feel gratitude is the most beautiful thing ever and we should teach that to our future generations in a good way . Your pointers are very helpful.

  8. I loved this post. It is very important to learn gratitude importance in kids too. You suggested very good pointers to teach them in a very nice way. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Being grateful is so important and gives you a positivity and peace of mind. I love the idea of having gratitude jar and the alphabetical thanks. It’s a great way to remind ourselves of the simple things that matter alot for us.

  10. Yes introducing Gratitude as a trait to kids is one of the key steps to make them responsible adults of tomorrow. Gratitude journal is a great idea.

  11. With growing age of kids, we need to make kids learn the importance of gratitude. I really loved the perfect pointers you have shared to make them learn!!

  12. I think that’s the biggest gift we can give our kids is an attitude of gratitude. These are some great tips to develop an attitude of gratefulness to live life better.

  13. At night I have a session with my kids to say five good things and bad things they did. I think gratitude should be added to it thanks

  14. Kids grew up with gratitude installed in them will never forget it. As you said we should start young

Leave a Reply